cmd/utils, rpc/comms: stop XEth when IPC connection ends

There are a bunch of changes required to make this work:

- in miner: allow unregistering agents, fix RemoteAgent.Stop
- in eth/filters: make FilterSystem.Stop not crash
- in rpc/comms: move listen loop to platform-independent code

Fixes #1930. I ran the shell loop there for a few minutes and didn't see
any changes in the memory profile.