all: make unit tests work with Go 1.13 (#20053)

Most of these changes are related to the Go 1.13 changes to test binary
flag handling. 

* cmd/geth: make attach tests more reliable

This makes the test wait for the endpoint to come up by polling
it instead of waiting for two seconds.

* tests: fix test binary flags for Go 1.13

Calling flag.Parse during package initialization is prohibited
as of Go 1.13 and causes test failures. Call it in TestMain instead.

* crypto/ecies: remove useless -dump flag in tests

* p2p/simulations: fix test binary flags for Go 1.13

Calling flag.Parse during package initialization is prohibited
as of Go 1.13 and causes test failures. Call it in TestMain instead.

* build: remove workaround for ./... vendor matching

This workaround was necessary for Go 1.8. The Go 1.9 release changed
the expansion rules to exclude vendored packages.

* Makefile: use relative path for GOBIN

This makes the "Run ./build/bin/..." line look nicer.

* les: fix test binary flags for Go 1.13

Calling flag.Parse during package initialization is prohibited
as of Go 1.13 and causes test failures. Call it in TestMain instead.